For Women Only!

A little something i’m posting for all you ladez out there…

Actually, i’m getting rid of a lot of stuff in my inbox, but since i can’t part with most of them, i’m posting some of the stuff here and in the bulletin board… haha! =)

(just so i could read it still when i FEEL THE NEED TO BIIIITCH!!! hehe)

For Women Only

This is for women only. But if you’re a man and feel the need to know what I think women should know about men, women and relationships, read on at your own risk.

You cannot change a man. Your projects for change may see fruition – for a while, but not for long. So, if you’re in love with a man you want to change, you’ll have to learn to change (your mind) because he’s definitely not going to change (himself) – for you.

Beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing. They’re both charming and cunning. They know which buttons to push to make you smile, swoon and giddy under the moon. But remember, he knows what to say or do at the right time, every time, is usually not Mr. Right.

Avoid men afflicted with serial infidelity like the plague. Don’t make the mistake of welcoming a philanderer into your home or heart. Walk away and know that you are a better woman for having walked away from a lesser man.

Philanderer’s lie. This truth is inviolable. Lying is a philanderer’s best friend. No matter what sterling qualities a man possesses, if he philanders, you can cross him out of your list unless you’re a masochist. Make no room in your life for liars and cheats.

Beware of gestures. Dinner dates under the stars. Moonlit walks by the pounding tide. Floral masterpieces delivered to your doorstep. All these are designed to seduce you. Beware of the power of gestures. They have the power to deceive you.

Understand passion, passion is a delightful creation. Enjoy its pleasures but know that it does not come without peril. Practice passion with discipline. Remember that after the passion of a few moments, you have to live the reality for the rest of your life.

You have a choice. You may not be able to choose your feelings but you can choose how to act on those feelings. The ability to abstain is what separates you from the rest of nature. You can choose to succumb as you can choose to resist. Remember, you are who you choose.

You can break the pattern. But know that for things to change, you have to change first. If you keep falling for cads, maybe, that’s because you only look at cads. If you keep doing the same thing, you can’t expect a different result. Check out the men you’ve ignored.

You were born complete. You don’t need a man to complete you. You may have been brainwashed since birth to believe that a woman is worthless without a man. But your survival and significance is hedged on your own efforts and energies. The absence or presence of a man in your life is irrelevant. You define your life. No one else can do it for you.

You are a human being first before you are a woman. Do not allow yourself to be used or abused. You are not a bottomless pit of understanding and forgiveness. You are not a doormat. You are not a means to an end. You deserve the same respect and dignity as the next human being.

The next time you spot a man you like, think before you walk over. Deliberate before you fall over. Step back and allow a moment to rein in your passions. It could save you a long, miserable life or an unfortunate and untimely demise.